Striking a balance in 2025
Hustle culture will encourage you to work: first a day job to pay the bills and second the side hustle where you pursue a dream. Is it really possible? What about the other areas of your life? You work long hours, have mild anxiety from being overwhelmed with tasks, struggle with sleep because of your long to-do list, and spend less time with family and friends. If you work a full-time, 9 to 5 grind you have steady income, stability, paid time off, promotions, and bonuses. If you then come home and sacrifice more time to pursue a side hustle, when do you decompress? You are trapped in stress, bathing in it from your tired body to your overworked brain. You can’t relax, your relationships and connections suffer. Friends may stop inviting you out. Maybe it is time to ask for help.
I worked a full-time job I loved and did a side hustle I did not love to try to make as much money as possible. I didn’t worry about going home because I often dreaded going home. I was making six figures and had the potential to earn more, but I was the most stressed out and unhappy I had ever been because of who I was living with. No amount of money or self-neglect or avoidance was going to fix what I knew I had to do at home. I had to confront the person who was making my life miserable. Who demanded more and more money sacrificing everything to feed his greed—our marriage, his friendships, our health in his constant pursuit to put on this front that we had it all. The success felt hollow.
I didn’t know who I was because I was so beaten down. I got out of this bad situation and shifted all of my priorities over the span of five years. After everything I went through, I realized I didn’t want to anyone else to suffer needlessly like I did and waste precious time. I hate seeing people bend themselves into pretzels to try to please an unpleaseable partner. I really believe people can live their best lives once they walk away from the toxic lies and live their true lives for themselves rather than others and a paycheck.
In many religious it is wrong to divorce; however, I believe God does not approve of abuse. If we have made a mistake, it is best to own up to it and fix it. The myth that you have to stay and have to be miserable is not true. The myth that you are somehow doing the right thing by sticking by your man and trying to make your spouse happy is a myth. You can leave and start taking care of yourself again. Find yourself again. It is never too late. You can find a job that makes you happy. You can find a spouse you enjoy and who enjoys you exactly the way you are.
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